Couples therapy, is an interaction between a therapist and the couples, in which the therapist listens to their problems and helps them to understand their relationship better, resolve conflicts and satisfaction by utilizing a range of therapeutic interventions. These therapies can be provided by the experienced and licensed therapists who would have a deep understanding of the different relationships.
What a couples therapy include?
The process and the therapeutic interventions of a couples therapy vary depending on the therapeutic orientations of the therapists, but there are some general elements around which a couples therapy rotates. These elements are:
- Detection of the main conflicts and a focus on their causes.
- Participation of both the partners on the part of the therapist.
- Individual consultation of both the partners for accepting each other.
- Solution-focused interventions aiming at changing the thinking and behavior of partners about each other.
Is couples therapy worth it for a couple that gets along just fine?
It is certainly worth it if . . .
as individuals they are the kind of people who experience life as a process of discovery and growth.
In other words, if the therapy is to be used to discover something new and to expand their experience in a positive way, it is well worth the investment of time and money. It becomes a new and exciting joint activity.
I have worked with couples for decades. As such, I feel I can reasonably assert that couples who use therapy as a kind of fuel for their fascinating joint venture (their partnership) experience a level of freshness and joy in partneringt that others may only know for the first few months.
This is not all couples by any means. And for the great majority I would stick to the old adage: if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. For them, a little learning can be a dangerous thing in that it triggers conscious awareness of slights and hostilities that were previously easy to brush off.
You could argue that all such things are better off out in the open but not everyone has the underlying psychological strength to be able to tolerate it.
So be guided by the nature of yourself and your partner. If you both love learning and growing, go for the therapy. If you’d rather play it safe, stay away unless it becomes necessary.